You are not alone.
I have not only witnessed this "not good enough" narrative in my clients, but I am not immune to it either. When we don't feel good enough and are filled with self-doubt, everything suffers. Our decision making is hampered. Our productivity,
focus, and motivation can plummet. Our mental health can also take a hit as anxiety and depression can develop and relationships can greatly suffer too. Striving to feel good can come in many forms (body dissatisfaction, overcommitting/perfectionism/"do it all" syndrome, numbing through addictions of all kinds (drugs, food, excessive exercise, eating disorders, shopping, gambling, sex, video games, etc.) codependency "I will be okay when everyone else is first.") and unfortunately, these can create many more problems and struggles. These attempts to cope and feel better are "band-aids" and don't get at the underlying problem or unmet need(s).
There is a solution.
Guess what? I have figured this out. As a mother of a grade schooler and middle schooler with high needs and as a clinical psychologist of teens and adults, I have finally come up with a philosophy and plan to tackle life overwhelm and the "not good enough" syndrome that plagues so many of us. The loneliness, sadness, self-doubt, lack of motivation and focus, unstoppable crying, fear, dread, lack of energy, and pain that life sends our way can feel unbearable.
You deserve a better life and BASK gives you the tools to achieve it!
When you have the tools to understand your needs and emotions and patterns and how to meet them and fully nurture them, you, my friend, can step into a life that has more calm and that it is more fulfilling and purposeful. With BASK, I help.
* Burned out moms become more patient, peaceful, present, and happier moms.
* Checked out spouses reconnect with their partners.
* Overwhelmed students learn more grace and find room for balance.
* People used to taking on the role of a "people pleaser" learn to acknowledge that they have needs, start to listen to their own needs and authentically address them and experience freedom and more bandwidth that they have been craving.
* Not good enough narratives turn into " I am enough and here are the ways..."
* Perfectionists learn its many costs and find new sources of self-worth that are unshakable.
* Loud inner critics are understood, heard, and tamed with curiosity and loving self-compassion.
* Those with disordered eating and food fears learn the function of those behaviors and learn how to get their needs met in more adaptive loving ways and experience food freedom and stop using their body as the battlefield or tool.
* People who struggle with body shame learn that they are more than a body and that, in fact, all bodies are beautiful and strong and worthy of love and being nurtured.
